These past month, in my Krav class, I have been reintroduced with the word Discipline. The way my instructor told me was a more memorable way to think about such word that I couldn’t quite forget and wanted to share it with you guys.
The word Discipline has quite a bit of negative connotation to it that not a lot of people like the word itself. Most of the time when I hear the word Discipline, I think of those days when I get punished for doing something wrong. Below are the Websters definition of Discipline and its quite extensive. Just reading it made me frown.
- training to act in accordance with rules; drill: military discipline.
- activity, exercise, or a regimen that develops or improves a skill; training:
A daily stint at the typewriter is excellent discipline for a writer.
- punishment inflicted by way of correction and training.
- the rigor or training effect of experience, adversity, etc.:
the harsh discipline of poverty.
- behavior in accord with rules of conduct; behavior and order maintained by training and control: good discipline in an army.
- a set or system of rules and regulations.
- Ecclesiastical. the system of government regulating the practice of a church as distinguished from its doctrine.
- an instrument of punishment, especially a whip or scourge, used in the practice of self-mortification or as an instrument of chastisement in certain religious communities.
- a branch of instruction or learning: the disciplines of history and economics.
verb (used with object), disciplined, disciplining.
- to train by instruction and exercise; drill.
- to bring to a state of order and obedience by training and control.
- to punish or penalize in order to train and control; correct; chastise.
Now as my instructor, he told us that Discipline isn’t always a bad thing. (Yes, a one point in time, I did think of it more of a negative connotation in life as well as something that will take the fun out of my passion, but that’s not true at all. It all depends on what you are passionate for and how much you want it.)
In a way we need it in our lives to achieve our goals that leads us to our dreams. We all have dreams that we want and live for. It is part of us that makes us who we are.
It is the passion that drives us forward to do the things we love and enjoy. We all live for that moment and wish dearly for as we continue on our journey in life. Living an empty life is something that we all dread and hope to never come across, but majority of the world is living in that passionless life.
Dreams are end goals, they are all still in your mind, waiting to sprout and brew into something great. I don’t mean you’ll become superstars or holly wood actors or something that media portrays, but more of what you wanted to truly do with your life that burns your very soul to make you move forward. Everybody has one, but to get there isn’t always easy.
In this world, only a small percent of people achieve their dreams. It’s about a good 5% or even lower, because it=s something that one gives up, while they are in the process of achieving it.
The number one reason is because of failure. Failure isn’t a bad thing, actually it’s really good that you fail. (I know it sounds crazy, but hear me out.)
Well, it’s because of what you learn from it that counts. But, there are people out there that can’t handle these failure and stops when they fall. They never get back up and just wallow in their despair that they can’t move forward. Can’t is a harsh negative word and something that will always comes true if you think in such a way. The way you think and discipline yourself to take on this challenges are what keeps you going.
Brushing the failures aside and trying again is what important. Nothing, I mean nothing is impossible if you put your mind to it. It all comes down to is how much do you want your dream to become a reality? The hungrier you are the harder you will fall, but the stronger you will become if you can see past failures.
Now where does discipline come in? Well, it’s something you will have to work on everyday of your life. Giving up certain things that hinders your growth, or even diligently working on a project everyday for a certain amount of time to reach your milestone. It becomes an everyday habit that will eventually get you where you want to be.
For example: If you want to be a black belt or 1st Dan, depending on the martial arts you take, which Dan means first step or stage in Japanese. Honestly, in martial arts, it’s the first stage of basic that one has achieved. You know enough that you can use pretty well without thinking too much about the technique, but that is only the first stage of multiple steps to get to a master and then to a grand master. To get there, dedication, diligence, and discipline is needed. There is no shortcut or a magic wand that does it all for you without blood, sweat, and tears.
Discipline isn’t only used in martial arts, it is used in life in general. Without it, you have no direction or goal. You’ll start forgetting what you want and it eventually fades into second thought.
It is hard, I know, because I fall into the trap of wanting to just stop and drop everything that I was doing and just go play. There are times of rest and a times to keep pushing forward. Doing everything 24/7 nonstop can tire someone out, it’s the right time to play, relax, and have fun and go straight to what you want achieved.
With that being said, this is just one aspect of success of making your dreams into reality. Face your failures, there is nothing wrong with failing. Learn from your mistakes, and try again with the arsenal of knowledge that you have been given.